“I am thankful for the people that have said no to me, It’s because of them I’m doing it myself ‘ – Positive Thinking Quote
Now it doesn’t matter if you are having a great day or a pretty shitty one, sometimes you can just feel a bit blue. Something can cross your mind and then that thought starts to escalate, then you’re thinking to yourself ‘Oh god I’m unhappy’ All because of one little thought that entered your mind… Well enough is a enough! I’m going to give you the best tips for positive thinking and keeping positive! 24/7 – 365 days a year!
So here are some tips, that will help you have a better day!
1. Finding the positive in the negative:
Now what does that even mean? Sometimes it’s to hard to have positive thinking in the mess of negative thinking. The problem with every human out there is, is that we doubt ourselves. For example, we come out of a test, first thought ‘ We believe we have failed’ You have a great date ‘ Then you start to think of all the stupid things you did’ These doubts can eat you up inside. So the best thing to do is think;
- What is one thing that is positive or good about this situation?
- What is one opportunity within this situation?
Mistakes aren’t bad, you learn from them.
But sometimes, you don’t even need that, sometimes its best to process it by yourself. Let yourself think oh all the good that can come out of the situation. For some people this can take longer than others, but it is there!
2. Live Positive:
Ever felt like you’re having a really good day, feeling all positive… Then you’re all of sudden in a bad mood! This may not be you, but the people around you! You need to think to yourself
- Who are the 3 most negative people I spend time with?
- What are the 3 of most negative sources of information I spend time on?
You can usually work out, if you’re feeling annoyed, down or just plain pissed off that it can come from a source! Like a person… Make the life and environment around you positive and you will become positive yourself.
3. Don’t let a itch turn into a rash:
We all over think things, it can be the littlest of things but that’s the biggest problem, you have this tiny little itch, you scratch at it, then scratch it again and again and before you know you have a rash… Don’t let the little things feed your thoughts. They aren’t worth your time.
If you feel yourself going down that road again, where your thoughts are taking control, heres a 3 step rule you can follow:
STOP – Don’t let the thought go any futher
BREATHE – slow the breathing process down, get back to a steady heart pace.
RE FOCUS – Re programme yourself, think about something else. Get that brain back on track. Focus on what needs to be focused on.
4. Something is under your skin:
So a thought or a feeling is under your skin, its constantly rolling around your head, eating away at your thoughts and making you feel awful, well here’s what to do is that situation to have positive thinking:
LET IT OUT: If you have something to say, tell someone! But someone you can trust! By letting out what you need to say, helps you become calmer!
SELF ESTEEM BOOST: So someone has said something nasty to you ‘ They don’t like the way you talk’ They don’t like you hair’ They have said a hurtful comment about you… well the best thing to do is, NOT CARE! Improve yourself esteem, you’re so much better than them. You are unique, number one, the best! Who cares what someone else says to you! If they don’t like you for who you are, they aren’t worth your precious time. BUT NEVER SHOUT ABUSE BACK! – One saying I live by is ‘You never feed a troll, because a troll will always come back for more’ – If you argue back, they are only going to come back stronger!
5. Learning to take criticism:
Some people love to be nasty, its in their nature… They want to fuel an argument by saying something mean in the hope you will then say something back! Now we all get in arguments at some point in our lives, but there is a right way to deal with it.
Think before you text: When you get in an argument over text, its best to take your time. When you are angry you let your emotions get the worst of you, take a breather then reply or the better option don’t reply at all.
Not worth your time: Why argue with someone that isn’t worth your time, be the bigger person, you can be the one that just doesn’t reply. Why is that person that’s shooting abuse at you left right and centre worthy of a reply. YAWN, they are so not worth it.
Two part criticism one part learning: Sometimes criticism can be good, lets say you are extremely passionate about your art, you have painted this beautiful picture and someone comes along and says its not good, instead of saying ‘F#CK YOU’ Ask them why, learn from the criticism. Stay positive and be the best version of yourself you can possibly be.
I hope I’ve helped you, in some way or another for positive thinking if you want to talk more personally DM on twitter or you just drop me an email, I will reply don’t worry!
positive thinking is worth it people, life is worth living!
‘Follow your dreams they know the way’ – Positive thinking quote